But the king said, “What does this have to do with you, you sons of Zeruiah? If he is cursing because the Lord said to him, ‘Curse David,’ who can ask, ‘Why do you do this?’”
– 2 Samuel 16:10
One message that we share in seminars is simple but empowering. Follow the instructions as you read this: Point your finger to the ceiling. At the count of three, point to the one person in the whole world that youa have complete control of. If you’re like most people, you’d be pointing to yourself.
You have no control over your parents, siblings, spouse, partner, officemates, housemates, or friends. What they do is their decision. What you do is yours. When we understand this, we can start to focus on what we can do about a situation.
When King David was cursed by Shimei, he chose to search for the good in the situation: “Perhaps the Lord will look upon my affliction and repay me with good for the curses he is uttering this day.”
Now it’s your turn to choose. Think of the person who criticizes or judges you. Reflect on how this person made you aware of what you can do to improve your situation. Consider the action you have in mind, its impact on all involved, and its long- and short-term effects. Now choose to act.
Reflect: “If you learn self-control, you can master anything.” (Anonymous)
Lord, give me the wisdom to know what is under my control and what’s under Yours. I lift up to You all that I do and cannot do. Amen.